The Gottman Relationship Checkup is designed as a tool for use by clinicians in professional settings to offer precision help for unique relationships like yours. This assessment provides direct feedback that is specific to your relationship to help identify what’s going well, and what areas your clinician focus on with you and your partner.
The goals of Gottman Method Couples Therapy are to disarm conflicting verbal communication, increase intimacy, respect, and affection, remove barriers that create feelings of stagnancy in conflicting situations, and create a heightened sense of empathy and understanding within the context of the relationship.
This tool streamlines the relationship assessment process for your therapist, providing personalized, clinical feedback plus specific recommendations for treatment based on your answers.
Get Started In Four Simple Steps
Accept the invitation
Your Gottman therapist will begin by inviting you to Gottman Connect via an introductory email.
Create your profile
Each partner in the relationship will complete a simple registration flow to create their own Gottman Connect account.
Complete the questionnaire
Each partner completes and submits the Gottman questionnaire using unique logins to ensure privacy.
View your results
Your clinical professional will review your results and notify you when your questionnaires have been processed and evaluated.
Have More Questions?
What is The Gottman Relationship Checkup?
The Gottman Relationship Checkup is an online assessment tool created by Drs. John and Julie Gottman in collaboration with The Gottman Institute in Seattle, Washington. The assessment is composed of 480 questions in 5 categories: Friendship and Intimacy, The Safety Scales, The Conflict Scales, The Shared Meaning System, and Individual Areas of Concern. Question topics include friendship, intimacy, conflict, finances, children, trust, commitment, drug and alcohol screenings, and individual issues that can put a relationship at risk.
Where do the questions on the assessment come from? How do we know that answering these questions can actually help our relationship?
Dr. John Gottman is a clinical psychologist who has completed more than 40 years of research on relationships and couples. Dr. Julie Gottman is a clinical psychologist who has extensive experience in private practice and teaching settings. Together, they created this research-based assessment for couples as a method for learning the strengths and challenges of a relationship and subsequently determining a treatment plan.
How long does it take to complete the assessment?
The actual time it takes to complete each questionnaire varies based on individual responses, the complexity of relationship dynamics, and the choice to use optional comment areas to provide additional information about the relationship. However, on average, you can expect it will take between one and two hours to complete the assessment.
If I don’t want to take the test all at once, can I stop taking it and resume later?
Yes! The pace and timing for completing the assessment is entirely up to you. You can answer the questionnaires all in one sitting or work on them over time. If you choose to take a break, simply log out of your profile. When you return, the system will remember where you left off and will resume at that point.
Can my partner and I see one another’s answers while I am taking the test?
No. Before you start the assessment, you will each create a separate online profile with a unique login and password. Neither of you can access the other’s information at any time, and we encourage you not to share your login information with your partner in order to preserve the integrity and effectiveness of the questionnaire.
While taking the assessment, do I have to answer all the questions or can I skip the ones I don’t want to answer?
For therapy to be successful, it is important that your clinician understands all of the issues occurring in the relationship. With this in mind, it is not possible to skip questions or to shorten the assessment. However, many questions have optional comment areas intended for clarification or for further explanation of your responses. These can be used as a way to explain your thoughts about specific questions - positive or negative - and to add any important details you would like your clinician to have about a particular question, topic, or concern.
Will I get a copy of my results?
The scores and analysis are for your clinician’s use and will not be given to you because the results are interpreted in the context of all the other information obtained about you during the assessment process. This includes joint and individual interviews and your clinician’s observations. The results of the questionnaires do not stand alone. A second reason is that each of you will set up a private login account so you can feel free to answer the questions openly and honestly without concern about what your partner may think about your answers. Your clinician will discuss the results of the entire assessment with you and suggest a treatment plan for improving and strengthening your relationship.
How do I access The Gottman Relationship Checkup?
A clinician must invite you.
I’m not currently seeing a clinician. Where can I find one?
To search for a clinician trained in Gottman Method Couples Therapy near you, please visit the Gottman Referral Network.
I want to use The Gottman Relationship Checkup to assess my relationship without going to a clinician. Can I do this?
No. The Gottman Relationship Checkup is a tool designed for use by clinicians in a professional setting with couples.
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