We understand that taking the first step to improve your relationship can be overwhelming, that's why we've made it easy to get started with a personalized guided plan.
You can start working towards your relationship goals today with the Gottman Relationship Adviser. No matter what challenges or dreams are shared in your unique relationship, the adviser has proven solutions to help you get where you want. Enjoy the Adviser by yourself or with your partner for the same price.
After 50 years of studying thousands of relationships, we understand what you are going through.
Constant fighting and negativity
Drifting apart or boredom
Lack of intimacy and sex
Commitment issues
Infidelity and betrayal
Loss of trust
Money issues
Achieving relationship goals together
Getting to know your partner better
Creating sexual safety
Taking the next step
Having more fun together
Deeper connection

Complete the detailed, 100+ question questionnaire to examine five key relationship areas: friendship and intimacy, sex and passion, conflict management, shared meaning, and trust and commitment.

Receive an overall relationship satisfaction score, measure your connection using proven Gottman principles, and discover your relationship’s unique strengths and areas for growth. Read detailed summaries and dive into comprehensive research-based insights for every aspect of your connection.

Your results automatically generate a tailored, step-by-step program designed to help you improve your connection. Explore research-based exercises, videos, and techniques created by the experts. Start or stop your program at any time, and work through it at your own pace.

Developed using proven assessment and therapy methods by world-renowned psychologists Drs. John and Julie Gottman, the Gottman Relationship Adviser helps you heal and strengthen your connection.
You´ll get proven ways of improving relationship health, satisfaction and resilience. Let us help you find relationship joy, intimacy and connection with easy-to-do steps that really work.
Take the first step towards a healthier connection today! Get started now and see the results for yourself.
Sanchia R.
Thank you to The Gottman Institute for providing the tools my partner and I needed to create this relationship. We are so grateful.

Madeleine M.
Really good, small, manageable tips to improve relationships.

Janice H.
Absolutely essential to relational health - for all involved.

B.G.
Me and my hubbs of 33 years are living for the Gottman Institute in this beautiful season of life. It’s amazing how you never stop learning how to make your relationship blossom. I recommend it to everyone who hasn’t stopped learning!

Jeremy H.
I love Gottman’s scientific approach to relationships based on years of studies into relationship successes and failures.

Address unique challenges in your relationship:
The Gottman Relationship Adviser is here to guide you on your journey to a stronger,
more fulfilling partnership. With our research-backed questionnaire and personalized plan,
you'll have the tools you need to transform your relationship.

Have More Questions?
The Gottman Relationship Adviser is an unparalleled approach to relationship wellness. Measure your relationship health with a research-based self-assessment, analyze key areas of your partnership to identify your strengths and weaknesses, then start a tailored, step-by-step digital program proven to heal and strengthen your connection. Improve your relationship on your schedule, from anywhere.
No, you have the option to take the Gottman Relationship Adviser with or without your partner. You can take the Gottman Relationship Adviser alone to learn about yourself and your relationship, or you can invite your partner to take the Adviser as well, even after starting your own self-assessment. After you log in and invite your partner, they can access the Relationship Adviser by registering on Gottman Connect. Once they register, they will have the option to complete the self-assessment to receive their own custom relationship results.
The self-assessment is composed of five sections measuring every aspect of your relationship. It takes about 20 minutes to complete.
No, you can take a break at any time and pick right back up where you left off.
The Adviser uses the Sound Relationship House Theory, created by world-renowned psychologists Drs. John and Julie Gottman. The Sound Relationship House is a foundational concept within Gottman Method and has been used successfully with hundreds of thousands of couples all over the world to help them understand and improve their relationships.
Yes, you and your partner complete your own self-assessment and receive separate results based on your unique answers.
No, the Adviser is a self-assessment designed for couples and individuals who want to understand their relationship’s strengths and weaknesses.
You can find a Gottman-trained therapist on The Gottman Referral Network. The Gottman Referral Network puts you directly in touch with experienced clinicians who use Gottman relationship-building techniques.
Yes, past Gottman Relationship Coach purchasers can benefit from taking the Gottman Relationship Adviser. The Gottman Relationship Adviser will give you a full snapshot of the state of your relationship based on a detailed self-assessment, then provides recommendations for improvement. In coming weeks, the Gottman Relationship Adviser will also fully integrate with your Gottman Relationship Coach programs! Keep an eye out for updates shortly.
Whereas the Gottman Relationship Coach products address a specific area of your relationship, the Gottman Relationship Adviser is a complete relationship wellness program. The Gottman Relationship Adviser takes the guesswork out of improving your relationship by combining assessment and solutions all in one place. The assessment portion determines what you can improve, then the Adviser automatically generates a personalized step-by-step plan for your relationship.
The Gottman Relationship Adviser takes it one step further. You get the same research-based questionnaire and detailed results as the Gottman Assessment, then the Gottman Relationship Adviser generates a detailed step-by-step program designed for you and your partner to work through at your own pace. It’s the world’s first complete relationship wellness tool for couples, all backed by the proven Gottman Method.
After you take the Gottman Relationship Adviser self-assessment, you will receive an overall relationship satisfaction score, as well as your own personalized results containing 9 levels and 15 subsections, each explaining a critically important dimension of your relationship. Then, the Adviser will provide you with a step-by-step personalized plan for you and your partner to work through together.
Your personalized digital plan will contain courses, videos, exercises, and techniques all proven to improve your relationship. The way you answer the questions in the assessment portion of the Adviser will inform how the tool creates your digital plan—it’s completely tailored to your unique needs.
The Gottman Relationship Adviser is backed by the Gottmans’ 40+ years of research, and is built using the proven Gottman Method. You can read more about the Gottman Method here.
The Gottman Relationship Adviser can help you gain insight into your overall relationship health, friendship and intimacy, romance, sex, and passion, how you manage conflict, your shared meaning, trust, commitment, and more.
Access to the Gottman Relationship Adviser and your relationship plan never expires!